Here's a classic scenario. You're talking with this new acquaintance (female gender) and it happens. She mentions the topic of relationships and looks at you with this inquisitive stare. Now, you're stuck. You can either tell her your life is none of her business and break the flow of a friendly conversation, lie or you can risk saying the truth: "No, I'm single". If you are really lucky, your curious conversation partner needs a definition. Which forces you to explain the following: "Single. As in, I do not have a boyfriend or any romantic involvement of any way, shape or form." Now you did it. You gave her ammunition to move the conversation to a "deeper" level (whatever deeper means). The beast has now been released; meaning that, from this point on, the specialty of all female conversation will be ruthlessly exploited as they give the male gender the spotlight of their now "serious" conversation.
Now, if she's single, she'll likely start complaining about some kind of failure she finds guys to be "notorious" for or she might find it necessary to start describing her ideal man. BUT, if she's in a relationship, and hears about your singleness situation, she'll do this thing that kills EVERY single time! Out of concern, she will share a gaze of pity along with a comforting smile as she says: "Don't worry, you'll find the one someday."
GAH! REALLY?! Thanks for the heads up! Why is there this stigma around singleness that you will only be complete when you find your knight in shining armor? The knight belongs in a book not in a person's life goals. There are only humans nowadays.
It sounds ridiculous to me to live life like it will only begin once you have found someone to share it with because we are surrounded by people! There are so many ways to share life with people or to develop relationships (also sometimes known as friendships) that to associate singleness with loneliness or aloneness is irrelevant. As soon as you join a club, a course, an association, a team or a group of any kind you get the opportunity to meet people. And then whether you choose to be alone is now your responsibility. If you still feel lonely surrounded by so much activity and interaction (assuming that you are with a good group of friends), who's to say that you won't feel the same while dating?
No, singleness is not a bad place to be as long as you don't make it a waiting game. This is the time of your life where you can do what you want, when you want, how you want. YOU ARE FREE :)
I heard a speaker (Gary Thomas) once say: "If you want to serve Christ, stay single. But, if you want to be more like Christ, get married." In other words, when you are single, there are no strings attached. You can live for God fully without the responsibility of considering the needs and concerns of another person. Enjoy your life! Do all your fun crazy stuff now cuz maybe someday, when you do "find the one", it might be too late to do things with only your interest in mind. -- ref: 1Cor 7
Let's uplift our single status for once and enjoy the freedom we have been blessed with, instead of comparing ourselves to others. Why try to keep up with the standard of happiness of a few people when God "distribut[es] to each one individually just as He wills" (NLT 1Cor 12:11)? You are where you are. Thanks be to God. So, be grateful for the season that is now. Because you cannot take back the days that you have lived and you cannot either experience those that have not yet passed. Therefore, be a good steward of the present moments of your life. Remember, the only moments you can enjoy to the fullest are happening NOW.
